During trauma therapy, I was coached through EMDR and IFS therapy. As part of IFS therapy, I separated myself into different parts; this made it easier for my current self to face my past. The evidence-based techniques within IFS therapy were developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz with the idea we are all made up of […]
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Is Sitting in Silence the Fate of Every Victim?
Is it right for a woman to sit in silence All her aches claimed by his name Is it good for a man to walk away Pushing, shoving, screaming blame The last touch torches the morning dew The woman’s mind then whispers Don’t leave yet, he’ll change, you’ll see It is love that always conquers […]
The Honest Wishes of an Assault Victim
One Hellish Wish By Rikki Brase Anger grabbed my tongue and Made madness with its strong tones It lied and told my friends it’s fine, preserving pride in these bones Furry whips me back and cries for Strength to come through answers but all that really comes is a bunch of petty banters Why am […]
The Way I Live, All Because of Fear.
A short poem that portrayed a time in my life when fear raged uncontrollably. Can you relate?
How Do You Know Whether Someone Is Toxic or Not?
How do you determine and know when someone may be toxic in your life?
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When You Find yourself Feeling Like You Just Can’t Win
Remember, You are a good person. You are a loving, supportive friend. You are a daughter or son of a living God. You are capable of all things WITH Christ Lately, I have found myself developing a mindset that “I can’t.” I can’t do what I want to do. I can’t do everything. I can’t […]
You have a space in this place! Never forget it!
Hi friends. Can I call you all that? Are we to that level yet? I really think we are. Recently I started getting to know a friend that I met a few times. Our families did a few things together, but then they moved. She is one of those people you think you could be […]
One Part of My Story I Never Talk About: Intimacy After Assault
Some of the contents of this post may be triggering. Please read at your own discretion and seek professional help if you so need. I sat on the cold bed wondering if life’s goodness had met it’s end. Tears would have warmed me up a bit, the exercise of getting them out and all. But […]
How to Reassure Yourself on Days Life Seems Undoable
I heard someone say today that the Lord provides for His people. I then quickly recalled all the moments during my trial where I wondered when or if the Lord would provide for me. I asked what I needed to do to feel normal again. I wondered if somehow what that man did to me […]
Affirmations for an Anxious Heart & Mind
I am capable of reaching a state of calm. Good feelings are possible for me. I may be scared now, but this will pass. Relief will come. Every little thing is gonna be alright. Funny thing about steps is you have to take a lot of them to get very far. Today, I will try […]
My Balled Up Emotions
Today’s emotion was anxiety. This poem is what I decided to do with the mahhhhh inside of me. The thought of finding calm in the middle of a anxious moment is sometimes the start I need to less anxious driven thoughts.My Balled Up EmotionsWritten by Rikki BraseA ball of fluffIt floats in a clear binAir […]
Besides in Therapy, How Did I Heal?
Frequently seek people, experiences, conversations, and the God that reminds you that what you went through is real, you have people by you, and with God, you can be made whole and feel like yourself again. I have got to be honest though…
Trauma As a Part of My Life, Not My Whole Life
For a long while, it felt like my trauma was my life. I remember walking into therapy and my therapist telling me, “This is going to get a lot worse before it gets better. Can you commit to that?” I did. That day, I knew I needed my trauma to not consume me anymore and […]
Maybe It’s You That Needs to Hear This Part
In this post, there’s a short personal experience that may be triggering. Please read at your own discretion. Tonight I got the sense that someone needs to hear this part of my story.
4 Weeks, 4 Realizations – Who I Am Challenge
The who I am challenge has changed my life! That may sound dramatic, but I am not kidding. I have had this thought in my mind and every week, I have discovered more and more about who I am. These realizations transformed me inside!
Who I Am Challenge – Double or Nothin’
There’s a story of a little girl, she grew up to be twice her age. Then twice her age again, and again, and again. “Double or nothin,” she’d call this repetitive pattern. Every day before her double or nothin’ birthday, she would say to God, Welp, its double or nothin’ right?!
Scars of the Heart
A short poem about scars that went unseen by some, but very very felt by one.
Finding Calm in The Thick of An Aimless Day
Last Thursday I hit an all time low. I sat and binge watched Bakeineering shows for 4 hours, while five baskets of might-still-be-clean laundry hung over every chair or table. There were cheerios all over the floor from Archie’s afternoon snack. The table hadn’t been wiped off from last nights dinner. Ugh, one step into that kitchen and rats would rule. The dishes were piling, fruit flies were spaz flying, like they do, and the garbage was overflowing. My house was a pigsty. And I sat in it, wishing I was sleeping…
Finally Finished That Conversation with The Old Man
The Old By Rikki Brase There once was an old man He was the angry, struggling kind His shadows spoke volumes while the future fogged his mind He was never enough He always came in last His bad habits turned his feet To face the Shame of his past Does his life have purpose? Does […]
I Asked My Selves, “Should We Go to Therapy?”
Are we comfortable with Therapy? That was the real question all my selves had to answer. No, I don’t have multiple personality disorder. I have parts of me. Let me introduce you.
The Thoughts That Kept Me Up. It’s 2 AM
I haven’t had something be more important than sleep in a long time. I can’t believe I am up doing this right now, but gosh. I know I just couldn’t sleep with these thoughts stuck in my mind!